Watch A Psychologist Tell Us What No One Ever Told Us About Sex Offenders
She deserves a standing ovation. Why? Because she speaks truth, no matter how much it hurts for us to hear it.
Trigger warning: Discussion of rape, sexual assault, and abuse.
That’s not all! Dr. Burrowes spoke to us about the video.
I was inspired by my own experience of meeting people socially, having the inevitable “What do you do for a living?” conversation and watching what happened. If you can make it okay for people to be curious about sexual abuse you’ll find that they have plenty of questions. I think people initially meet the topic of sexual abuse with fear, but below that fear is a strong desire to understand the topic better. Conversations about sexual abuse with members of the public are also good for me. They help to focus my own curiosity, they remind me that this is an issue for everybody to be involved in, and they help me learn how to explain things in a way that is easier to hear.
I am sure that there will be a mixture of reactions but in general this whole project feels like a risk because it is a leap into the unknown. I am asking people to look at something that scares them. Many of the things I have to say will be hard to hear. I don’t see a long line of people queuing up to be the public face of sexual abuse. But if people are interested in hearing something different, and I hope constructive, then I’m happy to be one of the people who does that.
I think the world is waking up to sexual abuse. People recognize that it is a huge problem that no society is immune from. The next step is working toward solutions. People like me need to do what we can to share the knowledge that we have. We need to help people ask useful questions and find answers that will work. Much of the talk about sexual abuse revolves around politics and policies – we want to know who to blame and who’s going to stop it from happening again. Abuse is a human problem. I’m happy to provide a space for talking about the human side of sexual abuse because I believe that is the only place where we’ll find solutions.